A blog written by therapists that focuses on providing Gottman research & personal experience to help you with life's stressors

“Processing” is one of those words we use all the time in therapy. We need to process what happened.I’m still processing it.That experience feels unprocessed. As a therapist, I know what I mean when I use that word. But if you’ve never been in therapy, or even if you have, it’s fair to wonder: What […]

Receiving a new medical diagnosis can be profoundly disorienting. Beyond the appointments, treatment plans, and practical decisions, many people find themselves navigating grief, fear, uncertainty, and shifts in how they understand themselves and their relationships. A diagnosis can alter someone’s sense of safety, independence, identity, or future in an instant. Even diagnoses that are manageable […]

One of the most common things I hear as a therapist who specializes in OCD, anxiety and panic disorders when I meet with new clients is something along the lines of:  “I’ve been to therapy before. My therapist was kind, and it felt nice to have someone to talk to, but I never really felt […]

Insights from the Gottman Couples and Addiction Recovery training on working with addiction in couples When people think about recovery, they often think about the individual. Stopping the substance.Managing cravings.White-knuckling through hard days. And while all of that matters – here’s something that doesn’t get talked about enough: Recovery is more sustainable, more supported, and […]

Many couples feel like they’re having the same argument over and over again. One partner keeps trying to address a problem, while the other shuts down or pulls away. Over time, this can turn into a painful cycle: the more one person pushes, the more the other withdraws. Relationship researchers at the Gottman Institute identified […]